The title begs clarification, but I just could not think up a more suitable name.
The situation is actually like this, for example. I was watching the television, and the show was about a lady becoming a third party to a married couple, and managed to oust the wife out of the marriage, taking over her place.
I am very tempted to ask the third party lady this: Could you trust a man who gave up his wife to be with you?
Likely, the answer that they would give me is a loud shout of YES. But I highly doubt that this is what will happen. In fact, I think that was what this story was about. A korean drama that describe how the wife came back for revenge, by seducing her ex-husband, after a facial surgery I think. I could be wrong on the details.
But that is something that rings very true. One might call me unforgiving, that I should be giving the person a second chance. But forgiveness and second chances come, only if the person feel that he is in the wrong, and truely repent of the wrong doing.
So, apply that in the above example, you snatched the person you love from their current relationship. I hardly see any admission of wrong-doing, or repentence in it. What is worse is that, you would very likely justify the action, and convince them that what they did are right!
If they could be convinced that their action is right, they would not have much trouble doing it again in the future.
This does not apply to only relationships. I could give a more extreme example, where a person encourage someone to commit murder. And then justifying his actions was for the good of the people around. I think in most movies, you would see a twist in the plot where the murderer would go on killing more, and even killing the original person who encouraged him to do all these.
Or maybe it could apply to things that happen in the workplace too. Your company encourages you to cut corners in sale deals, cheating the clients or playing legal wars to maximize profit. The more you do it, the more the company encourages it. Like a cycle, indirectly you are promoting such actions by doing it. And slowly the company culture becomes very profit-driven. Soon it will be cutting corners with your salary. It would be pressuring you, exploiting you with longer working hours, and lesser rewards and bonuses. By participating in the actions, you have promoted and encouraged it, and so the same thing is happening to you eventually.
That probably will be one of the way of how to determine if a company is worth staying. If the company does not treat the people (outside company) they work with well, there is furthur more no reason for them to treat the people in their company well.
So regardless in work or personal life, we should all avoid encouraging and participating in unrighteous actions (the only term I can think of to describe these). By 'promoting' 'evil', it will only feed upon itself and struck us back tenfold.
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